Songs that speak of mutual love are NOT damaging, and the thought of co-dependency being enticed or glorified by music is crazy. Those are a therepist's words, and don't exist to those truely in love.
You can't take part in a two-way love affair without giving part of your self to the other, that's how it works. It's the GIVING that makes it love. The only damaging aspect of love is the twisted way that hollywood and mtv has painted it for us. I will gladly be hurt again and again, if that's the only way I get to feel the warmth & glow of love.
Let's leave the therapy to those who pay for it. I want roses & lollypops..... and love songs, Amen.