Very interesting and insightful, Diki. I've always wanted to perform/play in a band. The bands I have played in have never had aspirations of stardom and were never bigger than a quartet. I was always a small fish in a small pond. The one big chance I had came at 17, but I was too naive and innocent to give into the urge. Judging by what happened to many of those one-hit wonders, I'm glad I stayed in the little pond.

As for women players, I guees I agree that their aspirations and drive are definitely in a different gear. I played with a woman singer who, all of a sudden, decided she no longer wanted to sing the lyrics and do the jobs. She just picked up and stopped singing. Even her husband can't coax her into singing with his garage duo. She has the voice of an angel and sings as effortlessly as I've ever heard. She just has a different drive mechanism.