"I hope i didnt cause any hurt feelings about who should have a backup, and what the right thing to do is...yadda, yadda..etc"

Mikey, no hurt feelings on THIS forum! If I were in your situation I would have at least two backups in place. In fact I no longer keep an extra arranger, but I have access to several if I have an hour or so. I do have the laptop loaded with stuff for an on-the-job emergency.
For those of us that try to make a living playing music, these instruments are our tools, and not the place to cut corners!
DonM