Dave
I agree and have said many times the nicer the place the worse you are viewed and treated.
However I find it insulting to call myself a "servant" I'm not going to skulk around with my tail between my legs and take disrespecful behavior from anyone be it customer, club owner, CC manager ( biggest idiots by far closely followed by banquet managers ). I'll do whatever you want within reason but you gotta ask me nice.
Years ago with my trio we were regulars in a club in NJ. Owner was a "tough guy" with a lousy attitude who treated the bands there really bad. One day he started barking orders at us and he and my singer got into a screaming match in the middle of the dance floor ( you know in NJ mother is only half a word ) while me and the drummer were setting up. We reversed and started packing up thinking this is the end ! Well the singer made his point and from then on we were treated totally different, even being invited into the private back room to have some dinner with he and the "Boys"
I don't have an attitude but a pride in what I do and it has taken a lot of work to be able to do it. Someone says, "see that guy, he's a brain surgeon" and immdiatly he gets respect for his talents. Would you call him a servant of sick people ?
All anyone in any position wants is some respect and there's nothing wrong with expecting it.