I play by ear, but find myself turning to another band member asking "how does that song start?"

Many songs are similar , especially with instrumentals and ethnic music. Sometimes I'll start one with the intention of doing of different one..age doesn't help.

A LOT longer learning process with new stuff though. All listening and committing to memory, which obviously doesn't always work. Reading and going would be so much easier. It is like learning a foreign language, maybe I'll do it someday.