For EQ, I'm using Peavey Q231FX, it's VERY good and has leds for unwanted feedback location, this means that if you get feedback you can actually see at which frequency feedback occurs so you can eliminate that one.
For effects I can also recommend Lexicon (i still use a LXP-1 which has lasted abouth 10.000 hours working at least and still going strong!!! but I have to admit I like Tc-electronics is very nice too.
Abouth stage monitors I think it depends in which region you live.
Up here in Europe I have seen new HK-audio D.A.R.T.S. monitors which I didn't hear but I'm using an Actor set (HK-Audio) 2,4 KW total RMS power and for my purpose (trio or how do you say this in correct english, 3 man band?) this set is awsome. So in this way I think these monitors will blow your socks off.
Anyway you must find out what kind of monitors do you need, are you using them to hear yourself and audience of 30 people who are dining or or do you need 4 floor 15" monitors only for hearing yourself during real heavy gigs like some rockdrummers or singers want?
Whatever you choose active systems are preferable if you want a quick setup even if you have 15 Watts or 250 Watts.