Gary, Tony

Thanks for the replies. I just recently let the hair go and those who know me like it better white. I do too. I dress well and act professionally, thats all I can do. You can spot a bad dye job a mile away and to me it makes you look more desperate than hip. I especially hate the older guys with the jet black jobs, really fake. Hey, are we really talking about this here ?? LOL

( but when I go into a CC or nice restaurant, they see this 'older', bald guy, and think 'he is not going to satisfy my clientele' ... and they are saying that even when their clientele is 50+ ... image is a LARGE part of this business ... )
That statement hits it perfectly. They don't know you or what you do and have their mind is made up in 10 seconds. Besides I'm 6'4" so they think I'm there to collect money !!
Restaurants don't have music either. As one waitress told me its "Seat em, Feed em, and Street em"
I know an assistant mgr. of the biggest restaurant here "The Lobster House" ( one of the highest grossing restaurants in the country ) He gave me a polite but very true answer. "We don't need it " They could well afford to throw some music out there for the patrons but they just don't care. Get em out so they can do the next seating. How can I argue when even in Feb. every third car coming over the bridge into Cape May turns into the Lobster House.

No Marinas here have any music. One place, The Canyon CLub, that runs the million dollar Mid-Atlantic tournament in August may have a band one or two nights. I've inquired but its all done thru the event company they hire. Name the places you know and I'll tell you their stories. Been to them all. I belong to the Cape May Marlin & Tuna Club. The have a small bar/clubhouse. I played two Fri. for free and had people dancing around the pool table. People who had not been around in a while came in just for the music. Made some good tips. Same answer from the Secretary who manages the place. "We don't have the funds." And this is from a place where guys spend thousands to fuel up their fishing boats every week.

The Deckertainment is the guitar slingers or Kareoke duos/trios. Same for the Animal clubs. All Kareoke "bands" 2 to 5 pieces playing virtually the same backing tracks. Only one band I know actually plays live. Other live acts are the bigger rock groups in the "kid" clubs.
If I could hook up with a decent female vocalist to front I think I could make some more contacts but after working in duos with 4 of them over a number of years do I really want to go thru that again ?