The other side is when I used to do the higher end weddings in NJ. My rule was the nicer the place the worse you are treated !
I've seen the dumpsters and greasy back doors of every high end place in the state HA!
Go to a VFW or Elks Lodge for a party and your treated like gold.
Bill in NJ
"Oh, you're the BAND?!? Come in through the kitchen..." 
Been in as many catering hall kitchens as a chef!!!
