I have found the process of healing from the excessive ways of disciplining a child to be:
1-To hate My Dad.
2-To love myself.
3-To love my Dad.
4-To appreciate regardless of method what he did for me.
5-To recognize that he instilled in me a strong power of self-discipline which has added so much to my life.

I was in a gathering of men recently – the conversation was the same as above. One man said, “My father really beat me”. As he was saying that he was smiling and his face was filled with love as he spoke.
My thoughts, John C.