Rule #1 Whenever you are part of a large group of people you don't know...........you need to tiptoe when bringing up sex, religion, and politics. I remember having somebody here with good intentions talking about "saving my soul" and I jumped all over him. At the time I felt "correct" in telling him to "mind his own business" even though he was just trying to offer some help. Anyway........the whole thing snowballed into a "flaming" topic with everyone screaming at each other. I regret my aweful participation in it now............but if rule #1 was followed by ALL this nasty event would not have occurred here.
Rule #2 As with email...........Read what you have just written BEFORE hitting the send button. Sometimes when replying in haste, things are said that are regretted later. I have found that just by writing an inflamatory letter blasting everything and everyone, then NOT sending it, gets rid of my pent up anger even if I feel justified in my reply. If you still feel that you MUST reply..........Wait until tomorrow. A lot can happen in 24 hours!
Best wishes all! - charley