Wow, isn't this a bit extreme? The options I'm giving them are pretty clear. If they want lights and program music, they must pay. If they don't want to pay, no lights and music. They can choose to either; do the lights (they must purchase their own) and the music themselves letting me off the hook; They can pay me to do it; or we have no lights and no music and the band takes a hit in it's appearance/professionalism.

I don't see how it's a no win situation for anybody?

Al