I feel every job is different. When it is possible for my wife to come and enjoy being with those who hired me, then it's ok. Other than that, she does stay home.

My previous wife who passed away in 1994, always came with me. She was very attractive and freindly--and smart. For some reason she always sat up on stage in a high back chair when available. I was never understood why she did that. People would dance by and stare at her waiting for something to happen. We had a fantastic band, so I was not worried about jobs or approval.

We were playing a wedding in a fine hotel, and my wife sat on stage as usual.
We were doing a great job that night, if I may say so, and people would look at her expecting something --- She just smiled.

One of the guest asked me if we were available for a party he was having for his son at Lenord's in Great Neck New York. I said we were open, and the same four men would be on the job. He said, "I do not want the band unless you bring the female singer". ????? Eh?? singer???
I said sure, that will be an additional $150.
He said OK. She was booked on every job after that.
Did she have a good voice? --no, average, passable. But she was the kind of person you had to like. They asked for her before they would ask for me, the leader band.

My story, John C.