Looks like a lot of us have had the same experience with bands...drinking, drugs, prima donnas...people not showing up, not wanting to rehearse, arguing about the playlist, etc. It got so bad with the replacement keyboard players I hired after my long-time partner died, I almost gave up.
Those hassles, plus a decline in budgets when this area changed from three or four nightclubs to local bars and restaurants are why I began doing a single. Sadly, sometimes musicians are their own worst enemies. And, yes, this problem is more prevalent with "week-end" warriors.
I really miss playing with a band. I work with a couple of jazz trios and enjoy the hell out of that. And, whenever possible, I hire a guitarist, singer percussionist or horn player. But I control the action. If someone dosen't show, gets pissed off, etc. I can finish the job and I'll never call them again.
Sad, but true.
russ