Thank all of your for your support.

Glenn, I'm not offended by your post, but AJ's response is right on. As Scott knows, I think about my kids almost all the time. The interpersonal situation is very complex, involving a long history and other people. As Linda points out, a few bumps in the road are not the end of the journey. Replacing damaged property is relatively cut-and-dried, so I am going ahead with that. This is a keyboard forum, after all.

The message I have to my daughter is: "Hurting someone who loves you is easy, but not wise."