Hi Terry,
For a start- Try www.timelife.com and see what's out there. Check out the www.billboard.com or www.mtv.com and see what's playing these days.

For small lighting set up (just a start) you can check out www.musiciansfriend.com (I think) or go to google and type "American DJ lighting" or "DJ lighting package" you should get tons of stuff. For about 1000 bucks you can get a pretty damn good small DJ lighting set up (even less).

Do you play any instrument at all? Try to combine the music with a DJ box from Roland/Yamaha or your own keyboard.

KN.